31 Days of Soul Searching – Day 29 {Change}

Day 29

{Change} is not an easy process for any of us. It can even be a painful process at times. But change seems to be the only true constant in life.

Is it possible that change challenges us because, while things around us are constantly changing, we are unknowingly struggling to remain the same?

Shoot! And YES!

Think about the changing seasons for a moment.  Autumn happens to be my favorite season of the year. The crisp air, the vibrant colors, the changing leaves all just speaks to me on so many levels. It is simply beautiful to see nature completely changing right before my eyes.

Change in that respect doesn’t scare me at all. I enjoy it. I am moved by it.

That changing leaf that hung green on the tree all summer long providing shade to me and a home for the birds is different now. It is yellow, red, orange. It’s getting crispy and frail. It will soon fall victim to a gust of wind that will take it from its comfortable branch to who know’s where. It will toss and turn and flail about in the air until it falls to its final resting place with the many others like it. It will be corralled up in a pile and will eventually be cleared away. The branch, now bare, makes way for the winter’s snow and eventually for the new growth of spring.

Imagine what would happen if that leaf refused to change with the seasons the way we sometimes resist changing with our lives.

Throughout this entire month we have uncovered things that challenge us, things we want to approach differently, and things we want to bring out more in our lives.

What will happen if we end this enlightening soul searching process, but choose not to make any changes?


The same things that have always happened.

Our need for perfection, our intolerance of others, our inability to forgive, our negative self-talk, our propensity toward people pleasing, our struggle with setting boundaries…  all will be exactly as we’ve examined them to be. All will remain challenges if we choose not to change.

But I like things the way they are right now, you might think.

Do you really? Exactly the way they are now?

I don’t think that is the case. Try this explanation on for size…

Sometimes our need for things to stay the same is just stronger than our need for them to change.

But why is that?

We crave routine. We like what we know. We are able to function in our dysfunction with more comfort and acceptance than the uncertainty that change brings.

We may even make excuses on why we don’t need to change.

We are just fine the way we are. If people don’t like our flaws, that is their problem. We are who we are no matter what we do.

Some of those things are valid, to a degree. Of course we want to surround ourselves with people who love and accept us despite our flaws. And we want to be embraced for who we are, at our deepest core. Those things are true.

But if we are using those things as excuses on why we should not pursue our best selves, therefore staying the same and not learning and growing and changing, then those things are an obstacle to our healthy change.

Sometimes we hang on so tightly to what we know, that we forget to look for the possibilities of what we could become.

I recognize very clearly that I can choose to keep doing things following this soul searching journey exactly as I have always done them. But what will I have learned? What will I be able to accomplish within myself? And am I willing to risk my personal growth simply because it is easier and more comfortable to stay the same?

That just seems silly when you think of it that way, doesn’t it?

Why let the uncertainty of change deter you from becoming your best self?

Change takes commitment. Change takes courage. Change takes confidence.

Confidently commit to your courageous changes today! 


*This is the 29th post in a 31 day series on Soul Searching. To follow the series from the beginning, simply click here and you will be directed to the introductory post which contains links to each day’s topic.


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